I am writing a book about how I kicked a 25 year “addiction” to gambling, and I would love to hear your stories. I want the good, the bad and the ugly. Everyone will be treated with respect and with total anonymity.
I wish I could say that it was a simple process, it wasn’t. I don’t want to swaddle this in secrecy, as in go-buy-my-book-when -it-comes-out kind of way, but it was quite the journey for me and I want to get it right, when I put it down on paper. So so I will leave you with these key points, which helped me:
- I am not a compulsive gambler, I have neurological disorganization. There is no “gambling center” in the brain. Just like there is no “shoe shopping center”, “glue sniffing center” or “cupcake center”.
- I worked hard on myself , even though the compulsive behavior hadn’t stopped. Like a battered wife making her getaway plan.
- I sped up the process of being fed up, by being more aware in the gambling moments. I used to do it blindly, by suppressing all emotions and negative self talk, but by actually observing myself, the rediculousness of my actions really hit home in a different way.
- I forgave myself, was gentle with myself. Not in a “poor me” way, which used to justify the gambling, but in a way where I could allow myself to grow and move forward.
- I did therapy. But instead of going in there hoping/expecting the therapist to push some imaginary button, I came in with a plan, was proactive and did my homework.
- I did self hypnosis, which is way easier than it sounds.
- I did NLP, EMDR, EFT and a bunch of visualization techniques. Most of it self taught because I couldn’t pay for professional help.
- GA has helped many people, but it was a bad experience for me.
There was more. I probably took the long road, but hopefully I will be able to articulate it in the book, so your process wil be way shorter than mine.
If you want to reach out and tell me your story, please do so. To protect your anonymity, you don’t have to leave a comment, you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org